About M

Sheesh.

Sometimes you just cannot get people. M has been here recently, and she and i had some sort of falling out before she left due to some "sensitivity issues" --- she claims we (me and a friend) were very insensitive to her by our "hirit" to her before. Hmm.

Anyway, prior to that incident, M has been fond of making-",i>hirit herself, mostly self-depreciating jokes which to a certain degree are funny, but after some time become tiring and really uncomfortable. I mean, really, who wants to hear " buti pa kayo, me pera, makaka-alis na lang biglaan... dahil mayaman ang mga magulang nyo, at sinusuportahan kayo..etc." every so often!??? I feel weird about it, more so whenever she'd start ranting how imperfect her life is and how she is "slaving" just to make ends meet. HELLO!!!???!!! We all do that dear, but just don't bitch about it as often.

So come today: i YM-ed her to say hello and the usual greeting? " wow, pakape-kape na lang tayo ha, iba na taaga ng may datung..." WOW. That is the 3rd time a line like that has greeted me whenever i YM or chat with her. Really. Do we really need to start conversations like that? Can't we just go with, how's life? What you up to? Isn't life a bitch, then rattle off to your ranting without saying weird innuendo-filled remarks like "iba na talaga pag me datung..." *sigh*

She sounds like another person i know.....

I'm not saying hwat i did was entirely right, y'know. After all, i did over react by starting the word lashing. But hell, i can't take it anymore! Yes, i may have over reacted, but i would like to ask, if you were conversing with a friend and every time you guys talk, that is the start of every conversation you have, knowing fullly well that your friend has a knack of over-emphasizing things, wouldn't you react the same way!???

Geez.

So i tell her off, how this makes me uncomfortable and why is it every time we chat she always has to say stuff like that. She, in turn, tells me i'm waaay to sensitive and serious about this. Apparently, she hasn't heard people talk about that particular thing about her... I'm not saying that every body talks about her like that, but most people she converses with has noticed the same thing. I guess it's a shocker for her that i told her off. My point is not to pick a fight with her.

My point is: what she says, consciously or not, may be received in various ways. (Funny, i seem to remember this coming from her when we had our lil' spat last year) And for me, IT AIN'T FUNNY after hearing this kind of thing in almost every conversation i have with her. *sigh* Sadly, i think she missed my point. It's hard to focus on what's the issue when you feel certain biases toward a particular judgment (believe me, i've been there), which is why i want to set this straight with her. It's not an attack on her, it's a friggin' reminder that not everybody shares her friggin' humor, as well as appreciate that kind of joke/innuendo.

I proposed a truce for now, as she was saying she doesn't want to deal with this, especially not through chat. FINE.

Geez. At least i'm not the one bitchin' about how life sucks and not havin' a friggin' job, and snidely commenting stuff like this to other people under the guise of jokes. Haha. Right.